Dear Guys:

For 10 years I’ve been helping men “Win” with women. Many of the men who come to me are confused and frustrated by their experiences with women, and feel ill-prepared to deal with the challenges that dating and relationships inevitably present.

Sometimes the issue is frustration with how women think, sometimes it’s about asking women out and feeling more confident.  It might concern how to choose the right partner, how to overcome performance anxiety and performance issues, how to TRULY please a woman or resurrect a sexless marriage.

Whatever the issue, I empower you in FOUR distinct ways that work:

1. I share intimate keys about women that immediately relieve you of guessing! There is a sense of immediate empowerment. You need these keys to be successful with women, (whether you get them on your own or from me). They are essential to experiences that are deeply satisfying.

2. I help you see the obstacles in your way you cannot see and make the changes that help you Win at Dating, Love and Intimacy. I tell you what no one else will about why you keep losing women and why it’s not working out. I am a master at illuminating obstacles and empowering change.

3. I help you learn new skills for bringing forth your most magnetic and powerful self, so that you are ready, and prepared to have an amazing woman in your life –when that time comes — and the skills to satisfy her on all levels.

4. I share powerful tools for how to succesfully interact with women and speak their “language,” so that Dating, Love and Sex are winning experiences.

My coaching works because it is about you being powerful and masterful – not about canned formulas for attracting women and getting them into bed.

I help you get the kind of women you really want!

When a woman says, “let’s be friends,” what it means in very plain language is she is not sexually attracted to you. It doesn’t mean you’re too nice for her. It means you don’t turn her on, period.

As hard as this might be to take in, the more you understand how and why you get relegated to the friends category and what you can do about it, the less it will happen for you.

Of course, not everyone will be attracted to you – even if you are physically stunning, super rich and wildly successful. There are so many subtleties that make up what attracts a woman to a man; what’s important is that you don’t get in your own way and make yourself unattractive by doing what MOST men do.

The biggest obstacle most men have to being sexually attractive is trying to seem NOT interested in sex. That’s right: Trying NOT to seem interested in sex.

You probably think this is how to gain a woman’s trust – to seem above sex.  In reality, it’s the fastest way to make “friends.”  It’s a “game plan” that practically guarantees she will not find you sexually attractive.

Couple of reasons: One, a woman wants to know that you desire her. This must be communicated subtlety, but nonetheless, communicated. “I desire you. I find you sexy. You turn me on.” You have to be clear in some way that you want to be sexual with her. If you are not clear, she will decide for you; and that decision will not work in your favor.

Everything you’ve been taught tells you not to tell a woman you want her. And yet it is exactly what needs to happen. No, you don’t want to convey that you ONLY want sex, this is what she fears – you want to convey that in addition to really liking who she is, you desire her.  A woman wants to be desired. If you miss this piece, the sexual fire will barely be a flame.

Second important piece: When you suppress your desire for her, you come across as feminine. You don’t give off the electric energy a man who is attracted and desirous gives off – the kind of energy that turns a woman on. You come across as sexless, essentially, and she feels zero attraction.

Let her know you want her; say it elegantly, and let it be a part of wanting all that she is. This is a winning formula!

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