Approach her Shamelessly

In my research on what drives couples apart sexually, I’ve discovered that women have a highly-attuned sense of when a man feels ok sexually and when he doesn’t, and it greatly affects her desire for him.

If you’re approaching a woman feeling bad or wrong about wanting sex, she feels that energetic. It seems as if you’re hiding something. And in a sense you are, you’re hiding the fact that you want sex because you feel bad and wrong.

If you feel bad and wrong how is that going to make her feel? It’s not a compelling sexual space, that’s for sure.

On the other hand, if you let it be ok that you want sex and that you’re a healthy sexual man, there’s a “clean” interaction when you express your desire. She might say ‘no,’ but at least you’ve allowed yourself to express what is real for you and that’s a powerful place to be.

When men try to hide sexual interest, they feel weak and out of integrity. You feel as if you’re trying to coerce her into loving you, and that doesn’t feel good.

Put your attention instead on wanting her, instead of wanting “sex.” It’s a very different focus. It’s ok to want her, she wants that. A woman wants to be wanted and thrives on it.

Want her more than “just sex” and she’ll shift with you. Let her know: “I want you.” And then experience the power of allowing what you want to be ok.

There’s a very big difference in your wanting to get off with her, and wanting to take her and have her. When she can feel the raw energy of your desire for her, she’ll be consumed with the desire to give herself to you!

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Guys, I know you want this to be about sex. Techniques ideally. Believe me, I’d give you those techniques in extraordinary detail, if I thought they’d would actually work to get you more sex.

My passion is to help you to win with women. And as an expert on this topic, my goal is to give you the information will actually make the difference.

I won’t deny that if you’re masterful with various parts of your body at pleasing, you’ll get big points and more sex.

However, if you miss the heart of what lights a woman up, your sexual success with her will be hit and miss. Techniques are not sustainable as a diet for love.

On the other hand, get inside what flips a woman on romantically, and you’ve got the recipe for how to turn her on for life!

So three things you need to master in the romance department to turn her on, and you can begin this Valentine’s Day:

1. Connection

Connection is a “coming together” that features mutual affection.  You share how much you appreciate each other, or love each other, or see each other, or delight in one another. This creates as sense of togetherness. This is very important to women – that you feed the “we.” Time together just isn’t enough.

2. Create a sense of possibility

Romance is about what’s possible with you and together. What could happen is often more exciting than what is happening. Women love to talk about you might create together in some imaginary future. It delights us to no end.

A woman’s most ecstatic state is a state of anticipation – whether that’s in bed or on a date. Anticipation is foreplay. It’s a state of surrender — living on the edge of possibility.

The more she feels this with you, the more turned on she’ll be. This may be new to you, so don’t wear yourself out trying to be her “magic man.” But keep in mind, that a woman dreams into what’s possible, and stoking the fires of her imagination will satisfy her romantically.

3. Surprise and Delight

Women love to be surprised. Often men ask women what they want, so they don’t get it wrong.

While, it’s nice to be asked and get exactly what you want, it’s not romantic.

It’s far more exciting to open a wrapped box and surf the wave of anticipation. For us this is sexual energy.  If you investigate beforehand, you can easily and covertly figure out what she wants, wrap it, and revel in her delight!

If this idea intimidates you, get her one thing she said she wanted and throw in a surprise all your own.

Keeping a woman in a state of ongoing delight is a sure-fire way to keep her sexually interested.

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