What makes a man truly sexy?

odziewa-jego-samiec-z-kładzenia-7360039I’m often surprised by how little men understand women and what they’re attracted to in men.

Of course, if you’re a man, you look at the world through a masculine lense. When you see beauty, your kind of beauty, it compels you – it motivates you to move mountains or to walk through fire — to experience that woman and what she stirs in you.

And so you expect that women seek the same in men – and while women also are drawn to beauty, even seduced by it, we’re far more drawn to confidence. We’ll drop the phone to saddle up with a man who rocks his confidence!

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“Open Her” A Spiritual Guide for Awakened Masculinity

Open her 3d small version If you’ve landed here today looking for a way to save your relationship, or sincerely shift the dynamics of diminishing desire, love and attraction between you and your partner, I invite you to read my book, Open Her. Open Her has been called a “spiritual rite of passage for men.” And “life-altering” for women. I wrote Open Her to inspire men to celebrate their masculinity,  and to embody the powers they possess to open a woman to ever deepening states of love and pleasure.    

I hope you get tremendous value out of it. Let me know. I’d love to hear from you.

By Karen Brody, All copyrights reserved, 2015. Please contact the author for permission to reprint this article.

Awakening the Dark Knight…

http://www.dreamstime.com/stock-photography-beautiful-young-couple-love-portrait-image36937232If you’ve read the Dark Knight chapter in my book, Open Her, you know that a woman wants a man to push her sexual edge, when the conditions are right.  She wants a masterful lead, to stretch her outside of her comfort zone.

What you may not have given thought to is how to create those safe conditions. A woman will only welcome the lead of the Dark Knight when she feels emotionally and physically safe with him.

A great metaphor for this is scuba diving. In the hands of an experienced dive master – one who communicates caring and sensitivity for each person’s safety and well-being, I can relax underwater and really embrace the dive. I know he’s got my back if anything bad goes down. Oppositely, in the hands of a dive master who’s not truly attentive, who doesn’t create a sense of safety, I’m inclined to hover near the surface to play it safe.

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Is your Love Life in the Weeds?

400_F_27162099_Z6oTmYS3hYRUT0elJ5YkfJzU3quJqpTGA relationship is just like a garden. When it’s well-tended to, a garden blooms into a thing of wonder. It delights and surprises you with endless possibility. On the other hand, when a garden is ignored or begrudgingly maintained, it survives, but its beauty and its potentiality are greatly diminished.

I’m often astonished at how many of my clients expect their relationships to be gardens of wonder and sensual possibility, when they devote so little time or energy to their care. So many of them barely pull out the watering can on the weekend, and then look around years later and judge that their relationship is “not working,” as if love and passion can thrive on an occasional drop of attention or intention.

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Increase Your Masculine Power — Ignite Feminine Desire…

Kissing coupleI have a core philosophy that is the key to my success with men and couples:

When men know and leverage their masculine power masterfully, they excite women and ignite their desire for sexual intimacy!

This is counter-intuitive to men! If you’re not able to command the outcomes you want in love, and feel you’re always scrambling to make a woman happy and to get physical with her,  send me a message and we can get to the bottom of this, together.  What I reveal to men and women is worth 10 years of relationship therapy;  I kid you not.

By Karen Brody, All copyrights reserved, 2013. Please contact the author for permission to reprint this article.

What Women Want

Zen GartenWe want a lot of things, probably too many for this post, so I’m going to share the one thing that could turn around your relationship, today. Get curious: I hear so many of you say you know nothing about women. Well, what are you waiting for? What if you suddenly took an interest in really knowing the woman you’re with? What if you asked her what she cares about, what’s meaningful for her, how she wants to be loved, what she dreams about? What if you asked: What are you feeling?

Instead of trying to “get it right” how about just getting interested? This is what you did when you were dating, and it lit her up and made her feel that she mattered to you as a human being.


By Karen Brody, All copyrights reserved, 2013. Please contact the author for permission to reprint this article.

Connecting = More Sex, Period

Two years ago I interviewed 100 women to find out why they lost interest in sex in their long term relationships, and the conclusion was simple and fascinating. Symbol of yin and yang of the background.

Ninety-eight percent of the women interviewed explained that they lost interest when they felt the connection was lost.  When I asked how they defined connection, 98 percent said that they connect by way of talking and sharing feelings and experiences.

Probably not a huge surprise, guys. But if you have ignored this fact, and now find yourself wondering what happened and why there’s a gulf between you,  you might want to consider some heart to heart talking.

It’s not just talking, btw. These women described it as talking “about us.” Talking about a future, making plans, in other words “we” talk.” When you talk about the “we” a woman feels loved, cherished and closer to you, and feeling close equals feeling turned on.

All copyrights reserved 2013. Please contact the author for permission to reprint this article.

Take this little survey, Win a Prize…

Present box with silver ribbon bowHi, I’d like to better understand you, MEN that is. As much as I think I know, there’s still MUCH to learn about you.

If you’ll take my 7 question survey, I will put you in a “hat” to win a session with me at the beginning of every month! I know you don’t want your name printed on the blog, so I’ll need you to hit “Contact” and tell me you took my survey. If you just take it, your responses will come through
ANONYMOUSLY. When you contact me, I will not pitch you any services. I will simply put you in the drawing for the complimentary session valued at $120.

THIS SURVEY IS ONLY FOR: Men in committed relationships. Thank you so much for your input. It really means a lot!


Why is she so disrespectful to me?

Consider this: You may not be keeping your word and you may not even be aware of it. Mandala Chakra Muladhara

Do you know when you’re giving your word? For a lot of men giving your word needs to rise to a level of formality, in which you look deeply into a woman’s eyes and swear upon pain of death that you will do something, or that something is the truth. It’s pretty obvious that you are staking your integrity and trustworthiness on that declaration. But what about that comment you make in passing that you will pick up the dry cleaning, or get the movie tickets, or take her out for dinner, or make the plans for a family vacation? For you, this may be somewhat under the threshold of “giving your word,” but, for her, it is the same thing. She may cut you some slack if you occasionally forget things. She probably knows how distracted you are at any moment and won’t be surprised if you don’t always follow through completely. But if you let this become a pattern, it will infect your entire relationship.

It’s best to consider anything you say you will do as being no different than formally giving your word. If you can’t do that thing, or have no intention of doing it, best to say so upfront or renegotiate your promise. Giving your word and breaking it is usually what breaks down a woman’s respect for you.

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